I remember many years ago after my then 5 year old son Little Dennis was killed. At that point, I had many adversities in my life but this topped them all by a landslide. I believe that this is the worst tragedy that could befall any parent. While reaching out to find answers and find my purpose in life, I reached out to many people, Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, Dr. Denis Waitley, Connirae Andreas, Foster Hibbard and many others all of which were more than happy to lend a mental hand. All of them are authors or professional speakers and at that time I had no way of knowing that they would influence me and start me on my wonderful journey that I am on today. One person I reached out to his name was Joel Weldon. He wrote me back and said he would help and wanted me to become a part of the Circle of Giving. I agreed.
Little did I know that this simple concept would help to shape and mold my beliefs, character and actions. Back in those days it was all about me. This was a true paradigm shift because I embraced and learned to transform me to we. My mother tried to teach me that the more you give the more you receive all my life but I didn't listen, I wanted to do it my way. She also told me that the key here is to give not to receive, but because it’s the quality of your character.
I have found that there are two primary reasons that people change. Inspiration and Desperation. Guess which it was for me? That's right! Desperation. For most people its desperation. The current climate that our country is faced with is the best example of this. Anyway, back to my story.
Yesterday I was talking with a friend and out of the blue she told me of a family that was struggling to get a Turkey so she, her two kids and mother could have a Thanksgiving dinner. This friend of mine had no way of knowing that one of the myriad of ways I give back is I adopt families for Thanksgiving and Christmas as my own small way to provide a measure of quantum solace to others during their time of need.
So we went shopping and bought a nice fat turkey, pies, salads, canned goods, cake, potatoes, bananas and other trimmings. When we arrived and walked into this young lady's apartment with 6 bags of groceries, her son Caden ran up with his arms stretched open and as I bent over to give him a hug I wasn't expecting him to jump into my arms and almost pulled me to the floor.
As I looked up, just the sparkle his mother's eye as she quietly whispered "thank you" and gave me a hug made it all worthwhile and brought a tear of joy to my eyes as I said "Happy Thanksgiving!" I felt like Loran Eiseley's The Star thrower... I made a difference to that one. Happiness truly is the experience of living each precious moment with love, grace and gratitude, to reach out and touch somebody's hand to make this world a better place.
On the drive back home I turned down the music and thought about the three doorsteps I appeared on yesterday, the expression in their eyes and smiles on their faces gave me a warm internal feeling and I reflected on what Joel brought to my awareness so many years ago, the very concept that my mother lived her life by... "The Circle Of Giving!"