As we find ourselves in the fray of the holidays, it is easy to become overwhelmed by all of the hustle, bustle and expectations we put on ourselves in an attempt to make the holidays live up to those we see in television commercials and movies. We go into debt and all that comes in January is exhaustion and even more bills! The crazy days of the shopping and preparing can cause us stress and pressure, which robs us of the “joy” of the season. Instead of trying to shop till you drop in an attempt to impress your family and friends, consider giving of yourself and your time to create the gift of experiences for your nearest and dearest. This can be by way of creating coupons for future fun times together, or inviting friends to spend time together doing fun things to celebrate this time of joy.

The importance of this idea is SHARING the experience. You’ll not have to worry if you bought the right size or color, and no shipping will be required. It may feel weird or odd at first, but once you have created some fun times together, I bet you will find your friends basking in the fun times you created together and looking forward to these events in the years to come.

Here area a few fun ideas to get you started. Just try to think of things you enjoy as well as the types of things your friend would like to do. Or just trying something new to both of you could create some fun while being adventurous.

See a holiday concert together at a local church, school, or college. Often these are free or offer less expensive ticket prices to help with the budget.

Viewing holiday lights by car or on foot in a historic neighborhood followed by a coffee at a small locally owned coffee shop.

Tour the Christmas Trees display at the Davenport Hotel or the evening holiday decorations in downtown Spokane or Coeur d’Alene.

Treat your friend to First Night Spokane on New Year’s Eve. Sharing a formal tea at a local coffee house or tea room after an art gallery visit.

An afternoon movie matinee with an early bird supper after (great for the budget). A visit to the MAC Museum in Browne’s Addition.

Set aside an afternoon or evening and invite a friend over to write and address your holiday cards. Doing this together will make the activity much more fun and keep you on task. You might even trade leftover cards from last year to avoid repeats.

Hosting a tea/coffee for a few friends in your home. Keep it low key. Make the tea and ask each friend to bring a plate of cookies or treats with the recipe printed out to share. Keep it small and simple so as to not add to your stress. Limit it to two or three friends and perhaps those who have not yet met and would enjoy each other’s company.

Take a friend along to assist with meal preparation or service at a local shelter. It doesn’t have to be on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, just any time that is convenient.

Bake some treats together then each of you take them to your doctor/dentist/hair salon and drop them off as a way of showing your appreciation for their service throughout the year.

You might find a way to give the gift of your time to assist a friend. Offer to take their child/children out for a few hours to give the parents a break or time to shop for their children.

Putting the emphasis on your friend and the experience will show the true intent of the holiday time. It does not have to be about elaborate gifts, big parties, expensive meals and the like. Show your friends that you care about them and want to spend time with them. Time is one of our most valuable assets and sharing it will show them that they are valued. The precious memories that you will create will long resonate with both of you in the years to come! Happy Holidays!